Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Real love..

Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in the wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends... (I Cor. 4-8)

Real love is everlasting. People get love confused with lust and infatuation, or even comfort and security. Love does not mean you can accept being with that person or it "makes sense" to be with that person, it means that unadulterated care, compassion and attraction for someone. That no matter what happens you truly want the best for them, similar to that of a parent to his/her child.

Love is amazing, it can be incredible beyond measure...if you treat it right. But of course, there's always a flip side to everything; with the good comes the bad (such is the nature of life). People get what I like to call "love sick" and seem to completely loose all sense of direction and sense of everything and anything. What I mean by that is that they loose sight of everything and life becomes an obsession of love.

Here is a piece written by a friend of mine along time ago:

No one ever tells you, About the dark side of love, The bottomless pit, That you can't escape from, No one ever tells you, About the tears you will cry, How much they burn, Or how you feel like you could die, No one ever tells you, How to mend a broken heart, How to get over your first love, Or how you lost the spark, No one ever tells you, When things will be okay, Why you fall in love, Or why things went stray, No one ever told me, I was falling in love, That I couldn't escape, That I couldn't run, No one ever told me, That I will have ups and downs, That for every time I smiled, I will have to wear two frowns, No one ever told me, About the unbearable pain, How you wished that he would feel it, How you would pray for it to go away, No one ever tells you, About the darkside of love, They paint a fairytale picture, Of what life is made of...

Breakups may just be one of the hardest things to go through in life, for some at least. I feel strongly that those who generally take breakups lightly may have either intimacy issues or just issues expressing their emotions in general. Love is meant to make you wonderful and empowered, not insecure or doubtful. I have compassion for all, but especially those who cannot express or understand their emotions for what they really are.... It is sad to see love go to waste.

Real love is everlasting. It is that unadulterated care, compassion and attraction for someone. I wrote those words, they are not quoted or seen from anywhere. So the accuracy of the statement could be debated, if one were to feel the need.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Monday, November 23, 2009

a womens worth..

since we all came from a women, got our name from a women, and our game from a women. I wonder why we take from women, why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think its time we killed for our women, be real to our women, time to heal our women, cus if we don't we'll have a race of babies that will hate the ladies, who make the babies. And since a man can't make one he has no right to tell a women when and where to create one” - Tupac Shakur

I think its safe to say any real words spoken by this man should not be taken lightly. I use the disclaimer "real words" because Tupac was a joker and sometimes he said things he didn't mean. This song is so powerful. Real words. This world needs more Real men to take care of their children. When you fall, stand tall and come back.

I think the overall, general problem with women, in my generation at least, is that they forget their worth. A man will only treat you the way you allow him to. The rape, the disrespect, the abuse - mental, physical and psychological -is all unacceptable. Mothers are raising sons while dating disrespectful, abusive men; that's setting up the child's world view to think that that's acceptable. In society today, I look around at the people in my life, some are in happy relationships, some aren't... but the ratio of each is equal. Women need to stand up and realize whats really good. I'm not one for using sex as power, but we have the power. Sex is not our worth, but when we give it away, were giving away a part of us. A real man makes you feel beautiful, strong, empowered, confident, and euphoric... not scared, insecure or hurt.

So will the real men get up. I know you fed up ladies, keep ya head up! Oooh child things are gonna get easier..

This is out to my sons father who doesn't see his son.
And to all the women who are raising sons: Raise them right, stop this corruption of life.